Here’s June’s playlist which is a very sexual one when I made it i must’ve been in a mood. Also I named the playlist Strawberry cause my birthday is the 17th and it’s the strawberry full moon. But I had fun with this playlist and even have a lil visual I’ll be posting tomorrow for it.
Here’s the link.
The Sexual Mother.
I’ve never been prude about sex or about the number of lovers I’ve had anything. I think it’s important for women to experience as much or as little as they want. But sensual energy is very important to my being. Finding what gives your body pleasure and what doesn’t it’s like opening a whole field of the women’s psyche.
As a mother I know society would rather have moms be domestic. Subservient to the father or male counterpart of the relationship. That the mother should be not too loud not too much.
Especially mothers of girls. It’s like now all of a sudden I am no longer an individual person but only a mother and a mother that needs to act a certain way about sex and sensuality so that my daughter doesn’t pick up on bad habits. That I need to dress a certain way to be respected and taken seriously.
But why does sex have to be a bad habit? My daughters 3 and I’m not at yet in the area of needing to explain matters to her about sex or educate her. However, I’ve thought of her being a teenager and I know already I’m not at all going to be restrictive. I’m not going to act like sex isn’t a thing. I’m not going to tell her she can’t have sex until marriage. It’s not my decision to make about her body. Just like it’s not anyone’s decision to tell a women after giving birth how she should behave.
There are plenty of women who are mothers breaking stereotypes saying they can be still be sexual beings. Amber Rose being the one that mainly comes to mind with her annual Slut Walk campaign. But if I got a dollar for each time I get into an argument with a man about how her walk is enlightening and they instead think she’s just allowing women to be “hoes” without shame or guilt I’d be a millionaire.
The double standard between men and women and acts of sex is so profound it’s a subject I never think will ever be completely healed. Patriarchy killed the sexual woman. It put her into a little nest box that said virginity is the utmost respectful thing you can give a man – that virginity is a gift. That having a low body count means you respect yourself that you respect your body.
I was raised in a Christian household but from an early age I knew that these certain expectations weren’t for me. Why can’t my body be both a temple and mine to make decisions for? Where did the discord happen that women shouldn’t have autonomy over their own bodies?
Is sex really so bad? Or does the notion of a woman being confident in her body and wanting pleasure that offends people into thinking a mother cannot be but one thing.
What are your thoughts?
Orange calcite is this months crystal as I’m currently focusing on my sacral chakra and using my orange crystals to tune into this second chakra. I’ll also touch on carnelian which is my other sacral go to crystal. And mookaite jasper which is another crystal I’ve been meditating with currently. Orange calcite is this translucent colored crystal that is mostly grown and harvested in Mexico I have been sleeping with orange calcite under my pillow the past couple days. It really is gently easy flowing energy. And I’ve already started painting again I painted yesterday for a little bit and I don’t paint consistently (at all cause of stress & things) but I’ve been feelin a creative “spark” since using the orange calcite. Just wanting to not let fear eat at me and go for it. Orange crystals are perfect for confidence, joy, creativity, fertility, abundance, inventiveness, independence, self-esteem, strengthening identity, happiness, and creative / artistic ventures. Orange calcite is a powerful yet gentle stone and even my 2 year old is attracted to it and always wants to hold it. It’s warm energy.
The sacral chakra which is associated with the color orange is one of the three “lower” chakras and is the second chakra above the root. It’s area on the body is the lower abdomen. It deals in your sense of pleasure, abundance, joy of life, well-being, sexuality (and sexual energy) and creativity.
Orange Calcite is gentle restorative and revitalizing energy. Helps improve the flow of chi,creativity, and sensuality. Clears blocked energy in the sacral chakra, improves digestion, and strengthens the immune system. For a more relaxed state wearing orange calcite can help. Orange calcite also helps bring your emotional energy back into a state of balance. If you have trouble with mood swings or dramatic shifts in mood and temperament (my Gemini self does at times) then orange calcite can gently moderate this imbalance while you can seek out the cause of the moodiness. Meditating with orange calcite and carnelian (another sacral chakra stone I’ll talk more in depth about in its own post) can help you to feel more pleasure about life- if you are feeling unenthusiastic or blocked from experiencing pleasure in any form.
Helps in balancing sexual energies. As well as removing any and all creative blocks one might be feeling. Though I got this crystal just to work on my sacral chakra it is really helping me to heal and clear creative blocks and fears I’ve had this year. I’ve began writing my manuscript for my book of poetry and painting again – finding my own creative style and not looking and envying what other artists are doing.
This is a good stone to have if you’re a beginner in crystal healing. Or if advanced. If you’re a creative. Or just as a chakra crystal stone.
okay, so let’s touch on mookaite jasper and carnelian a bit. Carnelian is passionate, determined, fiery energy. Excellent for creatives. Helps with empowerment and boundary issues, modified destructive impulses, increases feelings of confidence and self-worth. Mookaite Jasper helps relax you and surrender to the natural flow and rhythms of the earth and of your body. Improves sleep patterns. And feelings of being grounded and connected to earth. Both of these crystals would also be excellent for the sacral chakra in opening it and balancing it and if you just want certain qualities to stand out in your personality more.
Got this chunk from @wildandfreepeople on Instagram they also have an Etsy where they sell lots of crystals. I have a physical store I love to buy crystals from in Atlanta but I can’t always get there. So, having online alternatives is good for me.
if anyone knows of woc online sellers of herbs and crystals please send me their info!